About Me

I’m Nicky (they/she), a Somatic Sexologist and qualified Integrative Counsellor, with Person-Centred therapy at the foundation of my therapeutic practice.

I specialise in working with sexual trauma survivors and LGBTQIA+ and GSRD communities, offering affirming, trauma-informed and anti-oppressive therapy.

I support people navigating sexuality, gender, shame, self-trust, intimacy, relationships and connection with their bodies. My work also includes supporting people experiencing difficulties around chemsex and sexualised drug use.

My practice is trauma-informed, GSRD (Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity) affirming and rooted in anti-oppressive practice.

I primarily work with sexual trauma survivors, LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent clients, and people navigating sexuality, gender, relational diversity, chemsex addiction, grief, shame and disconnection from themselves or their bodies.

I understand that these experiences rarely exist neatly in isolation. Sexuality can intersect with trauma. Coming out can involve both liberation and enormous grief. Kink can coexist with shame. Relationships can change as our understanding of ourselves changes. Pleasure can become complicated after trauma, and sometimes the ways we learned to survive can eventually become the things that leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves.

My work supports people who want to understand these experiences more deeply, develop greater self-trust and find a way of relating to themselves that feels more authentic.

You might recognise yourself here

  • You are looking for affirming, inclusive therapy

  • You experienced sexual assault as a child or adult and are looking for trauma-informed support

  • You feel disconnected from your body, desires, sexuality or sense of self

  • You experience shame around pleasure, fantasy, kink or what you want sexually or relationally

  • You freeze, fawn, dissociate or emotionally leave yourself during intimacy or sex

  • You struggle to trust your body, boundaries or your own needs

  • You’re questioning your gender, sexuality, relationship patterns or identity

  • You’re coming out later in life, or navigating the grief and uncertainty that can accompany it

  • You feel trapped between who you’ve been and who you may be becoming

  • Chemsex or sexualised drug use is affecting your relationship with sex, intimacy, connection or yourself

  • You’ve spent years adapting to survive and no longer know what feels authentic to you

  • You appear functional externally while internally feeling numb, disconnected, overwhelmed or emotionally shut down

  • You want to feel more connected, embodied, honest and free in the way you relate to yourself and others

My approach

My approach is gentle, grounded, relational and consent-led.

There’s no pressure to perform, fix yourself or speak about anything before you’re ready. We work at your pace, exploring your emotional world while remaining curious about embodied experience, because our histories can affect not only how we think and feel, but how we experience ourselves and our bodies.

My background in Somatic Sexology particularly informs my understanding of sexuality, embodiment, pleasure, shame, consent and the ways trauma can affect our relationship with intimacy and our bodies.

In sessions, we may explore:

  • How trauma, shame or conditioning have shaped your relationships, boundaries, self-trust and erotic identity

  • Why intimacy, sexuality, desire or connection can feel complicated, unsafe, overwhelming or disconnected

  • How shutdown, dissociation, people-pleasing, anxiety, numbness or anger may have developed as protective responses

  • Reconnecting with parts of yourself that may have felt unsafe, suppressed, shameful or disconnected

  • Developing a relationship with yourself that feels steadier, kinder and more congruent with who you are

Clients often tell me they feel able to exhale, slow down and meet themselves more honestly in our work together.

Therapy cannot remove the difficulty of change, and I won't force your process or rush your pace. What I can offer is a relationship in which there is space to explore what is happening with curiosity, honesty and compassion.

My training & professional standards

I am a qualified Somatic Sexologist and Sexological Body Worker. I work within a trauma-informed ethical framework, receive ongoing clinical supervision and am fully insured. I am also a member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers. I have been running my private practice for six years, with particular experience around sexual trauma, sexuality, gender and relationship diversity.

I have completed my Level 5 clinical training in Person-Centred Counselling, and my qualification is currently awaiting formal exam-board ratification at the begining of September 2026. Following ratification, I will be eligible to apply for BACP registration.

Additional training includes:

  • Suicide Prevention - Grassroots

  • Wheel of Consent - Like A Pro

  • Equality, Diversity and Inclusion

  • Working with Neurodiversity

  • Polyvagal Theory

  • Chem Sex Addiction

  • HIV and AIDs awareness training

My professional development continues through supervision, reflective practice and ongoing training.

Beyond my clinical training

Alongside my therapeutic work, I have a long-standing personal interest in spirituality. I am also a qualified Level 4 Yoga Teacher and have trained in Reiki and Theta Healing.

These experiences have influenced my own relationship with embodiment, self-awareness and meaning-making. For clients who share an interest in spirituality, there can be room to explore intuition, symbolism or spiritual meaning where this arises naturally and feels relevant to them.

These practices are not part of Person-Centred Counselling or clinical therapeutic practice, and their inclusion in conversation is always optional and client-led.

If you're looking for a therapist with whom you don't have to explain or defend your sexuality, gender, relationship structure, kink or the complexity of your experiences, you're welcome here.